The Lordt is continually working with me on this one. I back slide in my knowing from time to time.
It’s like this though:
Folk who don’t have, honor, or maintain their own boundaries have no capacity to respect yours.
They haven’t built that inner muscle.
If we are not mindful, that lack of boundaries spills into interactions- tries to become a force, banging up against your sanity, integrity, relationship…. all the things.
These days when I observe that someone is leaking out and unconsciously or consciously offering me a handful of mess.
I bare witness and acknowledge what is actually going on without making anyone good, bad, worse, or better. I root down into my feet. I inhale/exhale with awareness at my heart. I quietly say to myself. “I see you…and all of that. I see you. and none of that leakage is mine or will become mine.”
Or sometimes I simply say real loud-
I told y’all The Lordt is working with me on this one.😂