The Lock and Key

July 15, 2019

My name sake. My great great paternal grandmama, Ms. Mama Octavia was short, stubborn, and didn’t say nothing she didn’t mean.⁠

The story goes she was released from a family she’d served when the man of the family died. Along with her release, she was given the equivalent of change to start her new life with. She sewed that change up into a pocket at the heart center of her dress and walked away with out looking back. ⁠

Born into a kind of servitude, whereby her body didn’t belong to her. Her time, space, and energy was claimed before she ever took her first breath. She needed to be stubborn. Tough. ⁠

My great great grandmama shut down and locked up parts of herself to survive. I inherited those locks and that capacity to shut down and out as a means of survival. I have lived behind some of the closed tight doors that she had to hide within. ⁠

She refused to be broken. Her refusal to be broken kept her existence in tact. She loved. And she created. And I am here.⁠

I inherited Ms. Mama Octavia’s locks, and in this life, I’ve also inherited the keys. The prayers. The practices. The means to free up. ⁠

She continues to show up in my meditations, yoga nidra, and dreams. She, continues to tell me:⁠
“Daughter, the tools that aided our survival ain’t always the same tools to thrive with. Open the locks, release the chains. You are meant to thrive.”⁠

My grandmamas are with me on every retreat. Every class. Every circle I hold space within.⁠

They are as real as sunshine, and also magic. like you and me.⁠

Today at noon, VIP registration for my New Year 2020 Starshine & Clay Yoga Retreat for Women of Color opens. This particular retreat is for sisters, women, who are ready to use the key and open the lock. For sisters who are ready to free up. To claim our legacy of freedom.⁠

On my VIP Starshine & Clay list? Check your inbox at noon today. Not on my list? message me at octavia@octaviaraheem.com to be added before noon.

“Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave, I am the dream…” -Maya Angelou


The past four weeks I’ve worked with 9 women in my #Held mentor group for yoga teachers. We’ve named, faced, and began to clear limiting beliefs.  Slaying all manner of oppressive dragons, We’ve unearthed dreams that had been marginalized, beaten, shamed, hated, ridiculed, and buried deep within us. We’ve actively reclaimed our right to rest, dream, rise up, and work for our own visions/ dreams more than someone else’s.  We’ve remembered dreams that are 500+ years old.


And what has emerged is forever free within us.


Grown women deserve space to dream. When we dream. When we vision, we remember and tap into our creative power.


Power.


Sisters. We have a wealth of creative power.And for some of us, it’s bound up, tied up, being poured out for everybody else, and leaking out in places where we lack boundaries in relationships, family, and work. It may be historical, but that’s not our legacy.


It’s time to snatch our power back.
Old paradigms and systems rely on women’s complicity in being “drained” at home and work for its fuel.  Abiding in that place won’t create the space and time for you to dream and reconnect to your creative power.
Snatch your power back from the vampires, parasites, lazy lovers, energy drains, and inner gremlins that keep drinking up all the fuel you need to grow your visions and dreams.


Your family and even “friends” who depend on your energy to feed them and their visions & dreams even if it starves yours— they may suddenly become unavailable or the opposite- clingy, as you begin “operation snatch back.”


Get your energy together anyway.


Snatch your creative Power, your energy, your fuel back.  Run to the wide open field of your own heart and mind. Dance freely in the field of your own imagination.


Rest and dream there. Rest and meet your dreams. Your creative power is in there.

Be Her Now.

June 24, 2019

“Be here now…. Be HER now.” – Lux Atl

Long before I co-owned Sacred Chill West, I owned my work.  I operated with the level of discipline, focus, commitment, care, and consistency that I believed owning a brick and mortar space would require.  
I was off by a lot (owning a physical space asks for more than I could have imagined) yet the inner muscles I stretched and strengthened then,  expanded my capacity to both “hold down” and elevate my work- now.
I honor the wise part of me that knew that the kind of freedom I wanted required discipline.
I treated myself like the woman I hoped to be and I grew into her. I treat myself like the woman I am becoming. I grow into her.

Being her now is:

So much inner work. Radical truth telling. Re-shaping my most intimate relationships. Defining my place vs. playing the role I was given.It’s not letting myself off the hook when it’s hard.It’s laying down in soft places and praying deeper than I ever have.It’s standing and walking through the fire until I see the blessing (tapas).
It’s ugly crying to release the heat and cleanse.
It’s bearing the gifts that my Ancestors gave without shame or apology.It’s trusting that what I’ve seen in my heart and mind’s eye is mine. It’s the smallest of steps and decisions I make every day- to be her now.


Sister, Trust her enough to do your work, now.  Honor her by tending to the details and process in the choices you make each day, right now. Let the distractions go.


No one else has read your book. She has.  Every day that you ink, you become the master of her story.No one has healed in your wellness space, yet. Every day that you save, plan, and study, she does.No one has walked the gardens you tend to. With every seed that you dig and plant- your bare feet become more deeply rooted on her true path. No one has held the baby you long to carry. Mama, she has. with every layer of womb wound you peel back. She holds baby.No one has heard the songs you write except for her. With each note and lyric you lay down, there’s another track to carry her forward.


Every step and stumble, you become more of her.More of your whole self.

Sometimes it seems like her “glow up” happened overnight or his “come up” was easy or breezy.⁣If we pull back the curtain on the person who inspires you a lot, the person who you <3 and follow and triple snap on everything they post,  it’s likely you’ll see plenty of failure, rejection, and mistakes.⁣ You will see resilience, will, and challenging choices.⁣You’ll also see a kind of discipline and devotion to their path that can’t be reflected on a two dimensional screen.⁣⁣

When I realized that I wanted to do this work, teach yoga, create  a sustainable wellness community by owning a yoga studio I desperately wanted a short cut. ⁣I wasted time looking and wishing for one.⁣I haven’t found a short cut to my dreams that I would trust. I have discovered best practices that are rooted in integrity, relationship, and commitment to actually doing the work.⁣⁣When I began teaching yoga and I’d have 0-4 students in class… I so wanted to skip that part and hoped for some fast track way to fill up my classes. ⁣

Thank goodness I never found a short cut. I would have missed out on so many honest, real, and grounded lessons and relationships if it were any other way.⁣⁣

12 years of teaching yoga and two years of studio ownership. Some of the best practices to build a class have been:

  • Commit:  Most studios have a time commitment of 6-12 months for new teachers/ classes on schedule. Set your own internal commitment to align with that if not more. Gaining a class is a commitment, not a stepping stone or just something to do.
  • Be intentional:  Incorporate a theme into your class. Teach with a peak pose in mind. Share stories and poems- points of connection in your class. Do everything with intention. If you use music, create playlists that support your theme or the energy you wish to cultivate in your class. Students know when they’ve experienced something especially crafted, tended to, and thought through vs thrown together at the last minute. This doesn’t mean that you doggedly stick to your plan if the real live students in front of you need something else, it means that you honor the seat of teacher by knowing why you make each choice you do when you lead a class.
  • Before your class: Your yoga class doesn’t actually start when the schedule says it does. It starts when you begin preparing for it. It starts when you pull into the parking lot. It starts before and as the first student shows up to check in. Make sure you arrive at least 20 minutes in advance to greet + check in with your students before class starts even if there’s desk support where you teach.
  • After class: Barring an emergency, don’t disappear to the bathroom or jet after each class. Ask students how they feel and if they have any questions. Always remember to thank your students collectively and/or individually. This shouldn’t be a huge time commitment, no more than 10-15 minutes.
  • Be a student in community: This may seem redundant,yet it is really important. Practice where you teach.   
  • Show up: Minimize your absences. Students and studio owners need to trust that you will show up for your classes. Consistency goes a long long way in building community.
  • Social Media: If you don’t share your why for teaching, valuable content, what you are teaching and where, how will students (present and potential) know? Also, it’s not always the number of “followers” you have, it’s the quality of engagement. There’s value in small active/engaged numbers vs. big numbers of “lurkers”, especially if your goal is to build your local classes, events, and workshops. There’s so much we can say about social media… more on that soon!

Your why is your light.

February 26, 2019

Knowing your why keeps you on your path.


The first yoga classes I taught were inner anxiety festivals and truly a mess. It was bad.

I prepared and planned for years to make the shift from part time to full time yoga teacher . The reality of the work, the truth that I’d traded in my 9- 5 for a 5-9… meaning 5am-9pm almost laid me out.

The first year of studio ownership was a professionally and personally dark period in my life. Most days I truly didn’t know how I/we the business/work was going to happen or make it.

My why, my purpose. It was/is my guiding light.

It won’t always be easy, comfortable, IG worthy, or immediately fruitful. What will sustain you during the moments when you question it all? When you want to turn around?  When the thing you love seems to have led you to a dark tunnel? What’s going to sustain you?


Your why. Your purpose. That’s your light.


What’s your why or purpose in doing this work?


Start with this question, Why do I  teach yoga? If you are just starting it’s Why do I want to teach yoga? Write down the answer. Then ask why of that answer. Then ask why of the answer to the answer until you get to something that is distinct and feels exceptionally real to you.


Hint: the actual answer is rarely- because I love yoga. That’s a given for most of us  and only part of it.


Next ask yourself the following questions:

-Why does your yoga business exist (please note, most yoga teachers are independent contractors which means YOU ARE YOUR BUSINESS.)

-How do you want your teaching to benefit others? Be specific?-If you don’t teach, what will the world miss out on?

-What gifts were you born with?-What skills have you cultivated in life, through other educational avenues, or occupations?

-What  other talents do you have?-What do you feel you were born to do on this planet?


Teaching and practicing yoga allows me to access freedom in body, breath, and being. Freedom that many of my Ancestors didn’t know. I co-own a physical yoga space in honor of all that my people did not own. My work allows me to create new experiences, narratives, and legacy for my self, family,  and people.


What’s your why?

This week my “Teaching Tip” is an invitation, an inquiry.

Dear yoga teachers + studio owners :
Look around your practice spaces and ask yourself, who is not present here?Who is not represented in your trainers and workshop presenters? Look at your list of well worn books, manuals, and study tools for practice. Who’s voice is not heard here? Who does your favorite yoga apparel & accessory company not show accessing yoga?

I know we all cultivate a “brand” and that includes who our target audience is and guides a lot of what we do. Yet there’s room for the question what’s missing from our schedule or class offerings?

Stay curious about who’s not present and what we all miss out on because of that…And then, stay deeply curious about why.

Yoga exists within the context of our larger culture and many of the ills of that play out in our sacred spaces. Yet I believe that honest  and consistent yoga practice  can expand our capacity and ability to grapple with some of the most challenging of these in a mindful, necessarily fierce, and compassionate way.

Only if it matters to us.  Only if we are willing to look and see who’s not there and consider our role in sustaining that absence, invisibility, and inaccessibility. Only if we resist “band-aid”, quick fix, solutions that our minds conjure up when what we see creates discomfort or defense.

In this inquiry, if you find dissonance between what you believe and what’s represented in the spaces you teach or own- be gentle, firm, and brave- AND look deeply into that gap. It may present as a pus filled wound. Ickiness, an inclination to blame someone else for pulling off the scab, dressing, or poking it by simply asking the question.

If the question rubs you, perhaps it’s the salve.


So y’all- no tips this week- just an ask of us, yoga teachers and studio owners.

Let’s look and see who we do not see in our practice spaces. Let’s look within ourselves and question how our thoughts, words, and actions perpetuate that…Let us question ourselves and intentions.

Let us ask for honest answers.

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